Saturday, March 13, 2010

Black Singles And The Online Dating Game

Michelle Smith-Billups



Thousands of black singles online have found dates and built relationships.... you can be next. Here's why you might consider trying: You have a busy life, like most professionals you have so much to do and so little time. You don't want to spend hours at a singles bar "hoping" to meet someone. You definitely have too much class to pick up someone in a nightclub or bar. With black singles online personals only a few minutes are required to search new ads, check your email, respond, all from the comfort and safety of your own home.

Online personals allow you to quickly and easily meet the kind of black singles you are attracted to and share something in common. You can select the age, city, education etc. For more in depth selection, you should really take the time to answer all questions honestly and accurately in terms of who YOU are and WHOM you are seeking. The clarity must be in your mind for it to manifest online. This will keep you from being played and eliminate those who are not worthy of your time. Online dating is ideal if you are tired of meeting the same type of people at the places you hang out and you have no idea where or how to find a different breed of black single...your kind of person.

How about safety? Online personals are safer than meeting singles at bars or night clubs, even safer than in church to some degree. Churches are notorious for picking up sanctified women (and men). Most people let their guard down in church. Believe me, the players and playettes are counting on your doing just that.

By taking your TIME you can protect your identity until you are sure you want to take the relationship to the next level. There should be no rush to meet anyone online. The medium is one that you can CONTROL. Do not allow anyone to take this from you. Do not "meet" someone if you are unsure or unready to do so. TAKE YOUR TIME! By talking to each other via email, you can feel your new friend out, see what makes them laugh and how they deal with day to day living. Time gaps may be just hard work or may be they are really in a committed relationship and don't want you to know. Keep your emails to keep track of information given until you actually meet face to face. Most people who are players will slip up several times over a month or two. It helps if you can catch them ahead of time.

All this would sound as if I am opposed to online dating. That could not be further from the truth. I have my own online dating website, Classy Black Singles. What I really would want is you not use online dating as a substitute for good common sense. Graduate from email to phone conversation. You should be able to really TALK with someone even if they (or you) are shy. Liking someone from the heart tends to loosen those lips. That is when those long, long conversations come into play. Even men who "claim" they don't talk do and WILL talk to the right woman! When you feel comfortable, arrange for a meeting in a public place. Leave your information with at least one other person. And when you meet that special someone and wedding bells are ringing, please by all means come back to me and let me know. I love to hear love success stories!

Michelle Smith Billups has several websites dedicated to those single and searching. Her main focus is on being the best YOU possible and attracting your perfect partner. When you are ready to find your someone special, please checkout my websites. My dating events are speed dating combined with dinner in an elegant and intimate setting. This allows great conversation and the ability to take your time and check out your potential "dates". Thanks for your time. Be Blessed in your search!

http://www.HurryDates-in-Black.com

[http://ClassyBlackSingles.com]

[http://SeniorsDating.biz]

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